This is definitely not a fairy tale about a young man and woman who saw one another, had something mystical occur, and then rushed madly into one another’s arms. It is more the story of two people whose parents wanted their children to marry and ignored any signs that neither was meant for the other. It is a story about migrants coming to a strange land who never quite grasp the nature of the new society. Above all, it is the story of a girl whose parents migrated to Germany where she was born and raised as a German girl of Kurdish heritage.
It is also the story of a German judge whose grasp of multicultural issues borders on the non-existent. As people under stress in an environment that is threatening weep or cry out their pain, the judge lets them know she is the boss and they do what she demands. “Do you think you can behave here as if you were in a Turkish bazaar? We won’t let you treat us with a lack of respect. Our proceedings are conducted in accordance with German law, and if you are in this courtroom you will abide by those laws. O else, you can go back to Turkey!”
The defendant is a 27 year-old Kurd identified only as Onder B. who was never a resident of Germany. On New Year’s Eve, 2008, he stabbed his German born wife 46 times as well as beating her with a billiard due. He decided at that point since she was now an ugly woman she would never again love him so he ran over her body several times.
His wife was German born and heavily influenced by her culture and experiences while he was born in Turkey. He wandered around for a few years before coming to Germany where he persuaded her parents to allow him to marry her. She was not particularly interested in him, but did not wish to create a conflict with parents so she reluctantly to marry a man she never loved. The result was she died.
Mujde was not the first Turkish born woman who was pushed into marriage. There are never easy solutions to these issues. One remaining tragedy is the continued presence on a bench of a judge who belongs in another occupation.